After 26 years you learn how to love. But here.s the thing ... there's always more learning to do, isn't there? We try and we fail, we bless and we wound, but in it all, and through it all, we're both learning to love.
Looking back on the years, I see where I went wrong -- what I could have done better, and what we did well.
Do I have it all figured out? Not a chance. I'm a work in progress, but I've come to learn that marriage is a thousand little things. It's giving up your right to be right in the heat of an argument. It's forgiving someone when they let you down. It's loving someone enough to step down so they can shine. It's friendship. It's being a cheerleader and trusted confidant. It's a place of forgiveness that welcomes one home, and arms they can run to in the midst of a storm. It's grace.
And so I have 10 marriage tips that I'd like to offer young couples. I hope they encourage you to love well as you're growing together in grace:
1. Choose Your Words Wisely
Whether you're frustrated or not, it's important that we use our words wisely. Careless words have the power to wound–encouraging words have the power to heal. Don't fly off the handle and say things you'll regret.