When you think about your marriage, does it feel like things are slipping away? We’ve found that making our marriage thrive means working hard to get past some major road blocks that get in the way, and keeping habits that make us stronger. Here are 10 reasons your marriage isn’t thriving.
10 Reasons Your Marriage Isn’t Thriving
1. You Don’t Listen to Each Other
It’s important to not only hear what your spouse is saying, but to really listen. Not sure of the difference? Next time he’s talking, try to recall what he shared. If you can recap the conversation, then you were actively listening. If not, you were hearing, but not focused on his words. We’re all guilty of only hearing sometimes, but with your spouse it’s important to set aside other thoughts that may be running interference and really listen. This will help you to communicate better with one another.
2. You’ve Stopped Courting One Another
When was the last time you gave her flowers or you made his favorite meal? Remember the days when you were working to impress the other…when your only goal was to show her what a great guy you were? As soon as you stop courting each other, you stop showing her that she’s worthy of your time and care. Make an effort to show her that she’s just as important to you as she always has been (if not more so).
3. Date Night Is a Thing of the Past
One big part of courting is going out ... without the kids. Simply getting a sitter and going out for dinner (or really out anywhere) will help you to reconnect and rediscover the connection that you have. Not sure where to go for your next date? Take a look at some of our favorite cheap date night ideas and stay-at-home date night ideas!
4. The Kids Are Your Priority
Of course your kids are one of the most important things to you, but in a healthy marriage the pecking order must be: #1 God, #2 Spouse, #3 Kids. Seeing your spouse as a higher priority doesn’t mean that you love your children any less. It simply means that you’re honoring the relationship that you vowed before God that you would have with your husband/wife.