Sometimes you don't have to go looking for conflict – it comes to you. Several years ago I was leading a group of students on an inner city mission trip in Chicago. Thinking it would be a nice way to relax after a long day of painting at a homeless shelter, I took the students out for a night run. Minutes into our run, we were interrupted. We heard the car before we saw it. By the time we turned around, a well-dressed couple had spilled out of the back seat of a taxi – and as my mom used to say, "They were madder than a hornet." It was the yelling, crying, and shoe-throwing kind of mad.
Honestly, I wanted to run away. Then I wasn't sure who needed my help more – the guy or the girl. So I started walking toward both of them using my loudest and lowest dad voice. Internally, I was praying that Jesus would return before I stepped into this conflict. It must have been enough to scare them off. We didn’t resolve their conflict, but they did get back in the cab and leave.
Conflict is all around us isn’t it? We encounter disagreements with strangers, family members, our kids, and especially with our spouse. Marriage is certainly not immune to conflict.
In Romans 12:18, the Apostle Paul writes, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." Every couple deals with conflict. Disagreements are inevitable, even in the healthiest of marriages. So what do you do when disagreement comes your way?