The babysitter shows up. You kiss the kids goodnight, flee to the minivan and drive into the sunset — or at least to the nearest Olive Garden. Halfway through the salad and breadsticks you realize you've been talking about the kids for the last twenty minutes, and that's when it hits you. You have nothing else to talk about.
Discussing the kids on date night isn't necessarily a bad thing. Your children are a cherished common interest, after all, and sometimes you need to hash out parenting questions and conflicts when the kids aren't around.
But if that's all you can find to talk about, it's time to expand your repertoire.
As the Scriptures say, "A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one." This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. (Ephesians 5:31–32)
Marriage is meant to be a microcosm of the church's relationship to Jesus. The key to any strong relationship is communication. With Jesus, that means prayer and studying scripture. With a spouse, it means digging beneath the surface of "how was your day" and "Johnny has a field trip tomorrow" until you see the heart underneath.
Try these date night conversation starters for married couples.
- What do you daydream about?
- Where do you want to live after we retire?
- What stresses you out lately?
- What are your goals for the next year?