I have known more broken marriages amongst my friends than I ever expected. Digging deep into the issues, the root cause is always selfish desires, in one form or another. It’s our own selfish desires that tend to wreck a communion we entered into with vows to care for and love another person. What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? James 4:1 (ESV – emphasis mine)
We can easily become clouded by our own needs, wants, or desires. No one is free of this temptation. We can also dwell on all the things our husband is doing wrong while what we see in ourselves is all the things we’re doing right.
A marriage cannot survive when we think only of ourselves. We need to recognize that to love someone is a choice, not a feeling. But it’s also a biblical command.
My husband and I have our share of challenges in our marriage, but we don’t allow them to steer our entire relationship. We don’t let our differences define our relationship.
I have a friend who is currently going through a divorce and when asked what top 3 qualities could have saved the marriage, these are the ones I was given.
As a wife, I am addressing just the wives in this post, but I encourage husbands to read this post: "The One Thing About Marriage That Should Make Every Husband Tremble."
3 Essential Qualities Toward a Successful Marriage
Maybe you’ve heard this one before? Yet over and over again it seems to be a hot-button issue inside marriages. When spouses don’t communicate, assumptions are often made which escalate into unnecessary conflict.