3 Reasons It's So Hard to Say "I'm Sorry"

"What is going on?" I asked. I could barely hear my wife's voice on the phone. I had called her when I left the office to let her know I would be stopping by the house in a few minutes.

My curious (and concerned) ears heard enough to know there was trouble on the home front. As it turns out, our five-year-old daughter had snatched our oldest son's lemonade out of the fridge – without permission.

What followed was a whole lot of relational mess that was going to take time to sort out and mop up. A simple, "I'm sorry" would have saved everyone a lot of time and energy!

"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone" (Romans 12:18).

Kids aren't the only ones who struggle to keep the peace. Most adults I know, including myself, are less than stellar at saying the simple words: "I'm sorry." Sounds easy, doesn't it? The truth is, it is unlikely you hear those words very often from family, friends, or co-workers. For many, we would far rather defend our sin than deal with our sin.

The following are at least three reasons why we struggle, when conflict arises, to say, "I'm sorry."

1. It's easier to blame.

The sin of blaming is as old as the Garden (Genesis 3). When God asked Adam, "Where are you?" after that first dreadful fall, he wasn't looking for his location as much as He was looking for his ownership. But instead, Adam blamed Eve, and Eve blamed the serpent. Blaming will prevent us from owning our sin in a conflict. The blamer looks around first, and looks in, last.

[Read the rest of the article at For the Family.]