We don’t show our kids their report cards. (I’ll give you a moment to recover from that potentially shocking news.)
Our three children were homeschooled for five years before they transitioned into a small Christian school. During the first several weeks at their new school, they didn’t even know what report cards were. (Feel free to chuckle.)
However, they quickly learned the value of a 94% score versus a 76% on a spelling test, and the difference between A’s, B’s, and C’s appearing in red ink at the top of their math quizzes.
In no time, grades were affecting their emotions—both positively and negatively.
One of my kids earned consistently high test scores, and started lauding his success aloud. At the end of every school day, I was met with a verbal report about another 100% in this or that subject.
I watched another one of my children battle with significant discouragement after misspelling five words on his weekly test. Without anyone speaking negative words, he compared himself and his score to the other children in his class, and concluded that he was worthless and good for nothing.
At this stage, you may be starting to think that shielding our children from potential disappointments is the reason we don’t show them their report cards.
But that’s not the case.
Here are the real reasons we don’t show our kids their report cards:
To Foster a Love for Learning
Let’s be honest. Back in school, when our teachers stood in front of the class and presented information or wrote on the board, the only question we really wanted answered was: “Is this going to be on the test?” At least, that’s how I coasted through most of school.