When our first baby was born, my husband Ted and I discovered that teamwork during pregnancy was the simple part. It didn't take much for Ted to hop in the car and make a food run for me. But getting up in the middle of the night to help me with a screaming newborn? That required more sacrifice. It wasn't much easier for me. At two in the morning, neither of us was thinking "teamwork." We were thinking, "Ugh ... it has to be his turn to get up and change her diaper, not mine."
Eleven years later, we'll tell you that having kids is well worth the effort. But uniting together to raise kids certainly hasn't been easy.
One reason is that we don't approach it in exactly the same way. Sure, we agree on all the essentials, but we differ in the ways we live out many of the smaller areas. And at times, we’ve let this complicate rather than contribute to and enrich our parenting.
We've found, though, that even if we differ in some of our approaches, it is possible for us to parent as a united team. We just have to work hard not to allow those areas of difference to divide us.
How do we do this? Here are three things I've discovered go a long way toward helping Ted and I better parent as a team.
1. Appreciating a New Perspective
I'm a writer and homeschooling mom. As much as I love our children, by the end of the day, I'm tired.