My wife, Holly, and I will celebrate 15 years of marriage soon. Thankfully, I know a little bit more about how to be a good husband than when we first walked down that maroon-carpeted aisle. Back in the early days, I thought the words, "I love you" were the only words needed for a thriving marriage. So I said them a lot. Over time, though, I began to expand my marriage vocabulary.
I still say, "I love you, Holly" every single day.
But I've added a few more key phrases, too. When I say these things, I see the smile in her heart and the relief in her eyes. I know what she needs to hear to feel safe, cherished, and appreciated.
These are the top four phrases a husband can say to his wife to put action behind the words, "I love you."
1. "I thought about you today."
Your spouse wants to know that even in the middle of a stressful day at the office, during a business lunch, or on your way to meet with a client, she crossed your mind.
Sometimes it's as simple as, "We had Chipotle for lunch and it made me think of you, because I know how much you love that place." Or, "We were in a meeting today talking about where the company needs help. I was sitting there thinking 'Holly would know exactly what to do.'"