Conflict happens. When your ideas or plans or perspective bumps into someone else’s ideas or plans or perspective, crash… conflict. Right? The result is often hurt feelings, resentment and stress. We all experience conflict; it’s just part of being a human. But, can we be honest? There really are some dear souls in our lives who seem to create conflict. They just plain rub us the wrong way! I call those dear souls sandpaper people! So, what do you do when that sandpaper person rubs you the wrong way?
Run? Explode? Ignore?
You can’t always eliminate conflict, but you can keep from elevating conflict in your life. You can shrink it down to size and not let it ruin your day or your relationships by the way you deal with it.
Here are 4 practical, biblical ways to deal with conflict when the sandpaper people rub you the wrong way:
1. Remove your plank: Matthew 7:3-5
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. (Matt. 7:3-5)
Why is it so easy to see someone else’s fault while totally overlooking our own? Well, I think it’s because we are often focused on the sandpaper person — what they did, what they said, and how they were wrong! When we are staring into their life with angry eyes of justice, we nitpick every little thing that is wrong with them.