After Joe and I got engaged we began reading books on marriage. We had a long engagement ahead of us and we wanted to be as prepared as possible for a life lived together for the glory of God. But a couple can be as prepared and well-matched as possible and still find themselves poisoning the very marriage they want to invest in. Over the years I have observed 5 toxic habits that poison marriages.
These toxins are common, easy to come by, and do more damage than many think.
I don't really know why many of us nag. It never really works. It annoys the other person without bearing much fruit and causes frustration in the nagger. Yet we do it anyway.
Sometimes nagging can occur through sarcastic words (something I am guilty of). "Your dirty socks aren't going to walk themselves to the hamper," or "The lawn is looking good if you are going for the prairie look."
The Bible has a hard word to say to naggers, especially women (maybe because we are more prone to nagging).
Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.
Wow, better to live in a desert? Better to be cut off from all human contact than to live with a nagger? Really? Why? Nagging is in opposition to encouragement. A nagging wife makes her husband's life stressful and unpleasant and aren't we called to do him good (Prov. 31). Aren't we called to be a helper (Gen. 2:18)? If I nag my husband he is much less likely to want to do what I am asking him to do. Nagging is deflating, frustrating, annoying, unkind, and wrong.
[Read the original article at The Time-Warp Wife.]