It happens everywhere on college campuses, especially Christian college campuses. Two friends sitting and talking about their feelings late into the night. Eventually it seems like the only rational thing to do with all the emotion and confusion is to have a DTR. It's time to have that conversation where they "Define the Relationship." What are we? What are we going to be? Where do you think we should be? DTRs are more funny than serious to most of us because college students often do more DTRs than homework, and some seem to need a DTR three to four times per date. But the idea and the intent behind it make sense. Desires for security and love drive DTRs. To guard each other’s hearts and care for one another well, there needs to be clear communication about where things stand in the relationship.
I've experienced the same need for clarity loving the little kids God has given us. Our children thrive when they know that daddy and mommy love them, that we will protect and provide for them, and that they are called to trust and obey us. We strive to remind them of those realities by consistently spending time investing in their little hearts. With regular communication and affection, the relationship is clear and they feel secure and loved.
That dynamic is only amplified in necessity and importance when it comes to our relationship with God. If we are not sure where we stand or what we are called to do in the relationship, then we can get off balance and become despairing, depressed, and afraid. Therefore, it’s good to go to God’s word and remind ourselves of all that God is for us — a regular DTR with the Divine — so that we have our feet planted on solid ground as we go throughout our days in a world where everything else can seem shaky and uncertain.
1. He is our Creator. We are his creatures.
"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them." (Genesis 1:27)
God is our Creator. We are his creatures. He is the potter. We are the clay. Therefore, we do well to remember that, as the Creator, God gets the final call on the purpose for our existence. We exist in his image, for his glory, and every moment of every day should be lived with our Creator's purpose in mind. It is good to know that we are not God, and to be reminded that our fullest and longest lasting happiness will be found in his purpose for us, not the one we might choose for ourselves.