7 Keys For Having a Healthy Argument With the One You Love

It wasn't exactly sound advice but, you had to admit, he had a point. His 75-year-old bushy eyes twinkled as he leaned across the table and said to me, "I learned an important piece of marriage wisdom a long time ago. When you're having an argument with your wife, as soon as you are convinced you're 100 percent correct, apologize immediately!"

There'd be a lot fewer arguments in marriage if this advice was followed, wouldn't there? But, is that what a healthy argument looks like ... cave immediately to keep the peace? No, that's never a long-term solution.

Stuffing what you think and feel now will only lead to a destructive explosion down the road. Disagreements are inevitable. After all, this is marriage! So, how do we have an honest disagreement without it escalating into a full-scale war, dishonoring each other, damaging our relationship, and diminishing our testimony as a Christian?

Freewheeling, no-boundaries arguments may release pressure like a bursting dam but destruction always follows.

But he makes me so angry, sometimes!

She is so illogical ... she's out of control!

Did you know God is totally good with anger? That's right, He is. You can’t read the Old or the New Testaments without encountering many things that make God angry. Anger is a legitimate emotion.

The Bible has a lot to say about anger but one of the things it never says is "Never become angry." Even so, many live their lives as if becoming angry is the worst possible outcome – stuffing for years their legitimate emotions.

Old Faithful in Yellowstone National Park and the person who stuffs his/her emotions share an important characteristic: You can count on the fact that they both are going to blow. It's just a matter of time.

Most anger has little to do with the instructions in Scripture and, as such, is sinful and destructive. God's way is always better but we need to remember, His way includes the emotion of anger. What does the Bible say?

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