In Part 1, we talked about (1) The Tendency to Drift and (2) How Not to Blame. We’re continuing with Part 2 with a couple more critical “keys” to help us keep our kids from pulling us apart...
3. Recognize the enemy
Our issue may be something simple like communication.But sometimes we seem to go after one another without thinking, and we say and do things we later regret.
It is important to recognize that we do have an enemy, and it’s not our husband.
It’s Satan. Either we don’t take him seriously enough, or we focus on him too much. Realize that he is real, and he would love to destroy our marriages. He is also subtle, and too often we don’t recognize his ways.
Perhaps you’d had a bad day dealing with a difficult teen. You are tired, frustrated, and feel like a failure. Your husband comes in and you immediately jump on him. Soon you find yourselves in an argument that seems to have come out of nowhere.
It’s time to call a halt and recognize that the enemy is trying to get a foothold.
Simply stop, put your arms around each other, ask God to ban Satan from you relationship and to give you grace to work through this issue together.
God’s word says to resist the devil and he will flee from you. (James 4:7-8).
4. Tackle difficult issues
Jay and Sally have two preteens. For years, Sally’s philosophy of discipline has been to placate their sons. She is hesitant to discipline them and is far more likely to be lenient than to precipitate a confrontation.