Suppose someone interviewed your teenager immediately after the two of you had a difficult conversation. What would he say? Would he say that you listened to him respectfully, wanting to fully understand him before you answered? Would she say that you showed thoughtful care for her concerns? Would your teenager say that the words you used were pleasant, encouraging and kind? Most importantly, would your teenager say your words were spoken with humility? Would your teenager think he was the most important person in the conversation?
At this point someone might be protesting, "Wait a minute, my kid was being disrespectful to me. He doesn't deserve to be treated that way!"
In Philippians 2, the apostle Paul says this to you:
"Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others."
Philippians is a book about resolving conflicts. To do this you must view your teenager as being more significant than you are! This is a hard pill for your flesh to swallow. Your teenager has spoken to you with a lack of gratitude. He has been disrespectful, even dismissive towards you. You are hurting.
Parent, you must remember that God constantly shows you kindness and compassion whether you deserve it or not. What have you done to earn God's kindness and compassion? This is what is must drive you to humility.