Sometimes the Bible's directness takes us by surprise. If my focus is to raise my child using God's discipline and instruction, then my words will be few, clear, pleasant, direct, convicting, and building. The more I talk the more I run the risk of muddying the waters with my opinions. Proverbs 18:2 is a humbling reality to those of us who use many words:
Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions.
Ouch, at least for me and maybe some of you as well. The last thing I should want for my children is for them to conform to my standards. If your child has been unkind or selfish, then this is what he needs to hear. It is not helpful to launch into a long impromptu monolog reminding him of all the times he has been selfish and unkind the last six months. When you have taken the time to assess the problem that has happened you can say something like this:
"When you refused to play with your brother with your new toy you were being selfish and unkind. You were thinking of yourself and not your brother. How does God say you should treat one another?"
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