"She makes me so mad, I can't stand it!" "He thinks only of himself, he doesn't care if he hurts me or not. It's maddening."
Did you ever say or think words like these? Well, you are not alone. But, what do you gain by being mad, by being so angry you lose control?
The answer: You don't gain anything of value but you lose much that is valuable! Often, being mad brings such harm that the damage is difficult, if not impossible to repair.
Of course, you think you have good reasons for being mad. You have been hurt and nothing will stand between you and your right to be mad. If you are miserable, then everyone else should be too. This might work if you ruled your world and God were only a passive spectator.
But God is not a spectator, he does rule your world and he has given you specific commands about how to handle situations when someone makes you mad. In Matthew 5:43-48, Jesus says love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. Paul says in Romans 12 to return good for evil. But when we are mad, we might say, "Wait a minute Jesus, you didn’t see what she did to me."