"Hey Mom, Jeremy is upset." "Okay, Sarah, I'll be right there."
Mom is thinking, "Here we go again. Sarah is always making Jeremy upset. I can't finish anything without somebody having an issue. I'll get to it in a moment."
Here is another example:.
"Dad, I'm really sorry I messed up and forgot to cut the grass. I'll get to it right after lunch. Sorry, Dad."
Inside, Dad is loosing it. He is thinking, "When will this kid ever grow up and be responsible?"
So in a frustrated voice he says, "James, when is this pattern going to change? You need to start being responsible. Don't make promises you can't keep!"
Dad walks away miffed, "At least I didn't yell at him. I just hope he gets his act together before its too late. I'm getting really tired of this."
Both of these parents were too busy listening to themselves and assuming what they thought was obvious instead of carefully listening to their children. The Bible says that it is both foolish and shameful to answer before listening. Proverbs 18:13. Both of these parents were speaking to themselves instead of listening.