"I'm really glad Mom spoke to me about that. I really needed her help." If your children seldom have this response to your authority, it is time for you consider a different approach. Here are three things that go hand-in-hand with authority that is a blessing.
1. Listen Before You Speak
A good listener is able to repeat the words you hear back to the speaker in such a way that he can affirm that you really do understand what he said. You don't always have to agree, but you must always understand. This attentiveness shows respect, first for God and then for your child. It also indicates that you view your authority as a trust given to you so that you can be a servant. Answering quickly, without fully understanding the intent of the words you hear, shows a lack of concern for others and, according to Proverbs, is shameful behavior. (See Ephesians 4:29 and Proverbs 18:13.)
2. Use Language that is Pleasant and Gracious
Harsh tones and sarcastic answers do not build relationships. A parent's role is to make God's wisdom attractive. Harsh, sharp language, tinged with just a bit of sarcasm indicates you are pushing your own agenda rather than God's. Pleasant language, even when firm, focuses on what is needed for growth. Harsh language reveals self-righteousness. (See Proverbs 16:21 and Proverbs 15:1.)
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