While reading Jasmine Holmes's excellent article "How to Care for Women Who Have Miscarried," I was inspired to consider the thousands of men who also have experienced the loss of a child in miscarriage. As a young man who has lost a child to miscarriage earlier this year, I vividly remember the difficult journey that my wife and I encountered in the loss of our first child. It is a path we still walk. For more than two years, we pursued God's calling in our marriage to have a child. Month after month after month of frustration and expectations being unmet, we continued to trust in God's sovereign plan for our family. Though sorrowful at the many outcomes of not being pregnant, we rejoiced in God's providence (2 Corinthians 6:10).
This March, we finally experienced the wonderful joy of life in my wife's womb. We shed many tears of faith, joy, and hope on that Saturday evening when we saw the positive result of the pregnancy test. Words cannot describe how overwhelmed we were by God’s love and faithfulness (Psalm 36:5).
Ten days later, we found ourselves in the emergency room of a local hospital with symptoms of a miscarriage. Our doctor gave us two words that were foreign to us at the time: "ectopic pregnancy." We lost our child early on the morning of March 17. Though we grieve our loss, we are thankful that we do not grieve as those without hope (1 Thessalonians 4:13).