When it comes to marriage, Lisa and I basically walk on water, never a harsh word passing between us. Isn't that great?! So, being the picture of godly self-control and gracious communication, what follows applies to everyone else. ... and, if you believe that and are interested in owning your own star, I can get you a good deal on one within our galaxy!
No – the truth is that, while Lisa and I have a great marriage, we also can have our "moments" when we give way to our flesh. We don't plan on it and it's not common but, it does happen ... like, two days ago. That's right, two days ago, when we had a sharp disagreement about a serious matter. (Now, of course, I was completely in the right and if Lisa would have taken the time to see things from my point of view this whole thing could have been avoided!)
But, seriously, even a solid marriage is not immune to sin ... and, let's remember, sin is always a choice. It's not something that just happens to us when we're not paying attention.
When it comes to our severe special needs daughter, Avonléa, Lisa and I are hyper-protective and the incident involved her: Enter Pit Bull with lipstick and underfed Grizzly Bear. Lisa saw it one way, I saw it another ... in other words, we both saw the situation from our own perspective. Lisa may have the stature of a shrinking violet but the force of her personality (when she let's it show, which happens rarely) is every bit as strong as mine. It wasn’t pretty. We did get it resolved in the biblical manner, but it didn’t have to happen in the first place. The entire matter could have been diffused in seconds if ...
... if I had responded differently. How we respond in the moment of emotional intensity has the power to heal or destroy. When we respond, we are exercising power.