It's easier to do the right thing when our spouse does the right thing. We can usually respond correctly in those circumstances, can't we? It's not rocket science, it's just human nature. You be good to me and I'll be good to you.
What about when your husband or wife isn't being good to you ... isn't doing what is right?
Much, much tougher.
And, if we're honest, we often cut ourselves a little slack when this happens, listening to the voice that says, "I'm justified in responding the way I did because of what he/she did."
It is justice, of a kind ... but not the biblical kind. It may feel right in the moment, to our flesh. Sin always initially feels right to our flesh. But ...
God doesn.t draw such distinctions and make provisional allowances for our sin based on the difficult time we are having with our spouse. Instead, He says, "Be holy as I am holy."
All the time, Lord?
Even when that person I’m married to does things that make me really angry?
Even when I am passed over?
When I feel uncared for and unloved?
Our flesh could never respond with a resolute "yes" to these questions. There's just too much at stake, humanly speaking.
[Read the rest of the article at The Time-Warp Wife.]