Suppose your child has developed a pattern of not coming when he is called. This can easily lead to frustration for both parent and child. Tension can mount until finally the parent decides enough is enough and a confrontation irrupts. This confrontation also may encourage the child to think that the eighth time he or she disobeyed is far worse than the first time. In reality each refusal to come is equally serious. The problem is the same each time -- God is being disobeyed. The following scenario assumes that mom has been working with her daughter to change a pattern of being slow to obey.
Five year old Jennifer has shown a pattern of not responding quickly to her mother. Mom realizes that she has allowed Jennifer to repeatedly ignore her direction because she has been distracted by other things. So instead of scolding Jennifer for failing to come eight times in a row, mom says this:
"Jennifer, please forgive mommy for encouraging you to disobey me this afternoon."
"Mommy, I don't understand."
"I realized that I have allowed you not to come when I called. Do you remember not quickly obeying mommy?"
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