Getting to the Heart of Behavior: An Example

Ask good questions to help your children understand their attitudes of heart. Think, for example, of the young man who has humiliated his younger brother in the presence of his older friends. You must correct his rude and hurtful behavior, but the wise parent will also help him understand what motivated him. You might have a conversation like this:

"Do you think your brother was embarrassed by the ways you spoke to him?"

"Yeah, I guess."

"Why do you think he felt so hurt?"

"I guess he thought I was making fun of him."

"I think you're right, he did. This is a hard question, but what do you think was going on in your heart when you made fun of him? I know you love your brother, but why do you think you made him feel so bad?"

"I don't know."

"I'll accept that. I don't know either, but let me help you think it through. Are you willing to work on this with me?"

"Yeah, I guess."

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