My mother has been with Jesus for more than 12 years. Time definitely has eased the pain of separation, but time has also faded my memories. Circumstances this past year have caused me to think of her a lot and to reflect on what a blessing she was to me. This Mother's Day, in addition to celebrating our mothers who are with us, I want to remind all of us to take time to remember our mothers (and grandmothers) who dwell only in our hearts. I often write about the importance of remembering God — remembering who He is, what He has done for us and who we are in Christ. Mother's Day is a special day set apart for remembering our mothers and calling to mind all that they have done for us, all that they mean to us and who we are because of them. Our mothers were an instrument in God's hand to bring us into this world. God knit us together in our mother's womb (Psalm 139:13) and He placed us into her arms at birth. What a joy and blessing it is for a mother to hold her newborn child for the first time at birth and then to hold her child's hand throughout life. That's how God intended it to be. Mothers (and fathers) were given to the child, just as much as the child was given to the mother and father. It is a bond of relationship that should never be broken. Just as God loves us and gave us spiritual birth, we should honor and love the one who gave us physical birth.
The undying love of a mother for her child is best understood when a daughter becomes a mother herself. Now please don't misunderstand me. Of course a son, or a childless woman, can understand mother's love by the love they receives from their own mother. But in the experience of loving one's own child a deeper understanding of parental love blooms. The love of a parent for their child is the closest thing to the love of God the Father for mankind. From the time of conception there is a oneness between mother and child that is sacred in God's eyes. It is a unity that God intends to last until they are separated by death. Sadly, not all mother and child relationships weather the storms of this life and many are broken. Broken relationships grieve the heart of God.
God's Prescription for Mother's Day
Remembering our mothers is important and how we remember them is crucial to a good relationship. We are told to take every thought captive for Jesus (2 Corinthians 10:5) and that means how we remember is an active and willful choice. There's a saying that our "glass" is either "half-empty" or "half-full." This is meant to illustrate how we choose to live. Do we remember what we should forget and forget what we should remember? We are clearly told that in God's grace our sins are cast into the sea of His forgotten memory ... never to be remembered or charged against us. When we start by taking our thoughts captive for Jesus, and remembering the love of God and all He has given us, then we can easily choose to remember the wonderful memories that positively influence, grow and direct our lives and forget the events that were less than edifying (1 Corinthians 13:5d). When we do that we live with a "glass half-full," and we find satisfaction in what God has done, and is doing, in our lives, rather than having a "half-empty glass" that will leave us wanting, striving and disappointed.