We've all seen it – the couple out to dinner who seems to have nothing notable to say to one another. He's talking on his phone while she takes a picture of her entrée and sending it to all of her friends. In a day and age when we're all plugged in, how do we unplug long enough to focus on our significant other and our marriage? Here are some helpful hints for guarding your marriage from the trap of social media.
Guarding Your Marriage from the Trap of Social Media
1. Give Yourself a Limit ... and Stick to It
The thing about social media is that it's just so easy to access. We have it on our phones, tablets and computers. An innocent check-in, tweet, etc., can quickly lead to a much longer session. If you and your spouse both have gotten in the habit of checking your phone multiple times each day, then that opens the door to hours lost focusing on other people and your relationships with them. We have worked hard to set social media limits for ourselves. By setting a certain amount of time that we allow ourselves to network with others, we are making sure that our use of social media never takes a priority over our marriage or family.
2. Hold Certain Times as Sacred
Similar to setting limits, it is essential that you set device-free times. By designating times that you will not use your devices, it will allow your focus to truly be on one another. Some of our favorite places to ditch the devices are dinner and family time. When choosing the times that you’ll not use social media, carefully consider the times that give you most opportunity to connect with your spouse and make those times off-limit for being online.