How to Be Present Where You Are

Picture this: I'm visiting a friend whom I haven't seen in years. We've been able to stay in touch on the phone and by email. I'm traveling through her hometown and we meet for lunch. We hug, squeal, exchange "oh you look so good" comments, and then order our lunch. As we eat, we catch up on our kids and lives.

After the first frenzy of conversation, she's less chatty. She doesn't answer my questions very quickly. She seems so distracted. Our conversation loses its rhythm.

Then she says something about someone she's following on Twitter, and I think, "Where in the world did that come from? I don't even know who she's talking about.'

Soon after that, I hear her cell phone ping and then she's quiet.

I ask her another question and she struggles to answer. She's doing the "uh-huh" as if I've interrupted her and then it hits me... I am interrupting her!!

She has been on her phone since the server put our chicken wraps in front of us!

I just couldn't see what was going on because I am blind. But girl, I could sense it! Her body may have been in a quaint eatery with an old friend, but her mind and heart were a million other places all at once.

She was not present where she was.

Has that ever happened to you? Or, dare I ask ... have you ever done that? No need to answer...

I'm not upset with my friend and I'm not saying I've never done it — I have. I'm just sharing it with you because of what it represents.

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