You don't realize how much they're watching. Or at least not how closely they're watching.
Because I thought I knew how much it meant to them.
But it wasn't until this recent discussion that I found out just how much our kids take careful note of our marriage.
Our daughter came home last week for a quick visit from her freshman year at college and started telling me about a conversation she'd had with one of her guy-friends.
And it's not what I would have expected.
As in, she casually mentioned to him, "Yeah, I'd call my parents right now but I can't because they're out on a date."
"What d'ya mean they're 'out on a date' – I thought they were married?" The guy seemed somewhat confused.
Our daughter started laughing. "Um, yes, they're definitely married. Like for over 23 years now."
"So why would they be dating?" He was baffled but wanted to understand.
"I dunno know, they're always going out on dates."
He thought about it for a minute or two. "I'm not sure my parents have ever gone on a date. Not that I can remember, at least."
And then added, "And I only saw them holding hands a few times in my entire life." The young man was nineteen years old.
Now she was the one confused. "That's strange. My parents all over each other."
She said that. She said we were "all over each other."
Okay, so it's a bit embarrassing to hear your teenage daughter describing you as basically hot for one another, and I had to stop her at this point in the story.
"You didn't really say that, did you?"