Sometimes the simplest, most profound truth is the hardest to live by. And, so it is with "A soft answer turns away wrath." A disagreement begins and before long, the house is on fire. Marriage conflict, why does it happen? We know it's destructive but the truth matters, doesn't it? After all, the reason we’re having the argument in the first place is because "I'm right and she's/he's is wrong!"
That's how we feel, isn’t it? And, sometimes, it might even be true. We are right. But, just because you're right doesn't mean you're not destroying your marriage. When we take the path of escalating tension, increasing the volume and a sharp tone, what's really happening is pride is taking over because we want to "win."
But, it's not really winning, is it? It's losing, because with each harsh word we're adding more cold, hard edges to our marriage. That's what sin does – it incrementally adds distance. And that is how being "right" and "winning" arguments will destroy your marriage. Who wants that?