It seems whenever I have a really difficult day, I don't have a hard time making it known. True, I pray for help and strength to get through whatever the obstacle might be. But the last thing I need is for someone to snap at me or push me through the day without encouragement of some sort. Typically what we expect from others is encouragement, support, and patience through a hard day.
But, do we do this for our children when they have difficult days? Or do we dismiss their feelings of struggle and generally expect them to handle hard situations as an adult would (or should)?
I will be the first to admit, the Holy Spirit smacked me in the head with this one.
This is exactly what I was expecting of my daughter and I wondered why I wasn't getting the results I wanted. When she has a hard day, for seemingly unknown reasons (even to her), I just tend to push her through it with little or no encouragement. I would expect her to "deal with it" or "get passed it" with little help or guidance. Looking back now it's really quite absurd I handled it that way!
Children cannot handle conflict in the same ways that adults can. They need guidance and encouragement to baby step through a hard day. That's where we come in.
[Read the rest of the article at The Better Mom.]