Struggles in relationships just don't happen, they come from somewhere. If you think the cause of relational problems lies primarily in other people, think again. James 3 talks about 2 kinds of wisdom: wisdom from below and wisdom from above. One leads to discord, jealousy, fights, etc. The other leads to peace. James urges you and me to desire and practice wisdom that comes from above. Look at verse 17:
But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.
Let's break this down. Wisdom from above is:
Here pure means a single minded purpose. Wisdom from above wants what God wants. This means motives are not mixed. This wisdom is not self-serving.
This means a genuine desire for peace, not looking for the opportunity to simply make things quiet and calm.
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