Ask anyone who's been married for over 25 years and they'll tell you that marriage is rewarding, but it's not always easy. Over the years we deal with a number of issues that take their toll on us. Difficult in-laws, financial stress, sick children, renovations, and unemployment are just a few of the things that can drag us down, and often they do. Two of the biggest problems that young couples face are these:
1) Our expectations are off
2) We're expecting our spouse to make us happy
Our financial expectations were sky high when Michael and I got married. He was earning $7.00/hour and I was earning less. We bought a handy man’s special assuming that we could fix up the old character home, but once I lost my job, we were barely getting by on his wage alone.
"Don't Pay a Cent" events were appealing to us. I could have a house full of furniture and not pay a cent until 1991? Wow! We were sold on that until we realized that time flies when you have debts to pay.
This is only one example of how our expectations were off, but over the years we discovered yet more in both our surroundings and our personal flaws.
Through all of it – the good, the bad, and the ugly – there was one important lesson we learned. It’s vital and life changing to those who finally get it:
Happiness doesn't come from your spouse – it comes from a Christ-centered life.
Looking to the scriptures, we see verse after verse reminding us that our strength comes from God. Those that wait on Him are refreshed. Our surroundings can never give us that feeling of joy, peace, and contentment that a life in Jesus Christ can.
[Read the rest of the article at The Time-Warp Wife.]