The unspoken question most asked about love is, "What's in it for me?" We are born with this compelling motive regarding love. We are born self-centered and self-consumed. So, if we love something or someone there must be a benefit to be gained. Young children love what makes them happy. Unfortunately, this is a pattern that we never outgrow apart from the saving work of Christ. We were made to love, just as we were made to worship. But, because of sin, we love ourselves and we worship what is pleasing to our corrupt nature. Without being changed by God, both love and worship become distorted and lead to destruction rather than salvation.
In God's mercy he sent Jesus Christ to redeem love and worship for his honor. In first John there is another 3:16 that tells us what love really is:
"By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers."