When it comes to offenses between spouses, a good memory is very bad. There's nothing quite like regularly referencing the list of your spouse's past offenses and failures to close a heart and prevent true intimacy and fellowship.
There is a deep-seated unkindness revealed by the refusal to let someone's past failures remain in the past. I don't want to be an unkind spouse, do you? In 1st Corinthians 13, the Bible says, "Love keeps no record of wrongs."
So, we need to ask ourselves a question: How loving toward my husband/wife am I, really?
Families are often famous for their unkindness, referencing a member's lesser moments at the most inopportune times, but when it comes to bringing up the failures of your spouse, it's far worse -- you're going home to bed (more likely the couch!) with that person!
And then there's the next day, and the day after that.
Bringing up past offenses has real staying power.
The sheer hypocrisy of not letting go of past offenses is another character flaw revealed by a bad "good memory." When we won't forgive and forget our spouse's offenses (when they have been repented of and we've said, "I forgive you") what we're really saying is that, "My past offenses don't count anymore, but yours still do."
God wants us to embrace a different perspective.
[Read the rest of the article at The Time-Warp Wife.]