The Bible says love does not keep a record of wrongs. Yet, a parent cannot deny the reality that her child failed to come when called 6 times in an afternoon. Does this mean the mother was wrong to keep count? Yes and no.
Yes, if all she does is repeat to her daughter the number of times she disobeyed. No, if she realizes that the significance of repeated sins is that her child should be repeatedly confronted with her need of the gospel. When sin happens, the commendation of the gospel is always appropriate. The gospel is not so much the repetition of the four spiritual laws, as it is the constant reminder that Jesus Christ died for our sins, according to the Scriptures, and rose again from the dead so that we may have hope that we don’t have to keep doing the wrong things.
When you sin or your children sin, it is not helpful to be told this is the eighth time you have repeated this sin. What is helpful is to be lovingly challenged with the reality that Christ died so that sinners would no longer have to be slaves to sin. Parents, you should never tire of saying these words of hope. In this way you avoid the frustration of constantly saying, "How many times have I told you not to do that?" There is no need to be surprised at the reoccurrence of sin!
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