Do your kids think that God or you will only be pleased with them if they obey him and obey you? Do your kids think that the gospel means that they must be good so God will love them? Do your kids think that they must be good for you to like them, for you to love and delight in them? Listen to your children talk about their understanding of the gospel. You may be thinking that children seldom, if ever, sit around and talk about the gospel. Actually, they do. Listen to your children talk. Listen to what makes them happy or sad. Listen to what they say about how you love them.
"Mommy, I'm sorry I make you angry."
"Daddy, I won't do it again."
"Why is everybody mad at me?"
"Do you think God is mad at me?"
"He hurt me, so I hit him back."
"I am sorry that I am not good enough to make you happy."
"I'll be good, I promise. Please don't be mad at me."
"I try and try and try but I just can't do what you want me to."
"I guess I am just not good enough."
"Mommy, I just can't do it. I try but I just can't."
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