"All you care about is your stupid rules! You care about your rules more than you do about me! Thanks, a lot for not caring." With these words your 14 year-old storms back to her room.
Sadly, this exchange is not unusual. Parents want to protect their children. Their teenagers don't think they need protection. The parents make rules. The teenagers think the rules are arbitrary and say so, well, not in those exact words. The parents feel disrespected. The teenagers feel abandoned. The parents tighten up on the rules. The teenagers are convinced the parents don’t care and don't want to care.
Nothing less than wisdom from above can address this breakdown. The Holy Spirit describes wisdom from above this way:
But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace. (James 3:17-18)
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