"What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?" James 4:1
Though my husband and I were sitting close to each other, we were barely communicating. It wasn't because we were in a fight or didn't want to talk. We were grabbing lunch after church at one of our favorite local restaurants. The diner was busy enough, but our conversation as a family was even livelier! With four kids around the table, there was a lot of chatter and catching up to do.
If you've been married with kids for any length of time, then you know how hard it is to finish a conversation, hold a thought, or maintain order without turning into Sergeant No Fun.
For all the joy that kids bring into a marriage, they can also cause a whiplash effect for a husband and a wife – especially when it comes to parenting. As you probably already know, sometimes our parenting preferences and objectives are at odds with our other half!
We can have different parenting styles, preferences, and expectations than our spouse. If we're not careful, parenting can pull us apart. That's why I love the reminder in James 4:1. It gives us a simple yet profound reason for why we have conflict. Most often it comes down to what I want versus what my husband wants.