Have you ever said something like this to your kids when things are challenging? "Sorry I was upset. You know that I love you, but I am just so frustrated right now!"
The words, "I love you," are buried in the middle of this defense of angry behavior. They may well be familiar words. But the problem with familiar words is that they often lose their impact and may become background noise to your children. More is needed than just words. Real, tangible actions must accompany the words of love. Let's start with patience.
1 Corinthians 13 says that love is patient. A working definition of patience is living in the expectation of God’s care. Patience and frustration are polar opposites. If love is patient, then frustration is not an expression of love.
We often refer to patience as something that we can lose -- as in "you are really causing me to lose my patience." But how would it sound if you were to say "you are really causing me to lose my love for you?" If love is patient, then "losing" patience can be equated to losing love. Said this way the idea of losing patience is not a pretty one.
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