Self-Pity: The DNA of Sexual Obsession

selfpitymainDriven by self-pity, Amnon became a sexual predator. He was a disgusting, pathetic, miserable young man. He is someone you need to understand. The Holy Spirit has something for you to learn regarding Amnon.

The core information about Amnon is written in 2 Samuel 13:2. All of the other events in this sad narrative flow from this one observation:

"Amnon became so obsessed with his sister Tamar that he made himself ill. She was a virgin, and it seemed impossible for him to do anything to her."

Obviously Amnon was sexually obsessed with Tamar. But if this is all you learn about Amnon, you will miss what is most important. This passage says much about attitude and desire. You could outline the attitude portion this way:

He became so obsessed that he made himself ill. It seemed impossible for him to do what he wanted.

Now we can see what is behind his obsession. The same observation could be made about countless teenagers caught in the tentacles of pornography. Let's move back a little earlier in time and observe a whining child:

The five-year-old became so obsessed with his brother’s toy that he made himself ill crying about it. He knew he should not have the toy. But it didn’t matter. He could not figure out how to get want he wanted so badly.

This all to familiar scenario does not seem as shocking as the story of Amnon or of the teenager obsessed with pornography. However, the attitudes that fueled Amnon’s obsession are the same attitudes that control this five-year old. This point is too important to miss. You must not be afraid to connect the dots of self-pity in your children with the self-pity of Amnon.

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