When someone asks me, "What do you think is the most important ingredient in the family?" I quickly respond: forgiveness.
It also might be the most difficult.
I can't count the number of times over the years that I've had to go to my husband or my children and say, "Honey, I shouldn't have said what I did, or I shouldn't have done what I did and I need to ask you to forgive me. Will you forgive me?"
I can't remember a single time that I felt like doing this.
I'd much rather tack on, "But if you had or if you hadn't..."
After all, sometimes I think I'm justified.
But God has commanded me to ask for forgiveness and to grant it. So for the sake of my relationship with Him I go…most likely silently kicking and screaming!
If I waited until I felt like doing this I'd probably never do it. And then bitterness and resentment would begin to creep into our relationship creating a low-grade infection that has the potential to grow into a serious illness.