Here are three things that go hand-in-hand with presenting wisdom as a blessing:
First: Listen before you speak.
To be a good listener you must be able to repeat the words you hear back to the speaker in such a way that he can affirm that you really do understand what was said. You don’t always have to agree, but you must always understand. This attentiveness shows respect, first for God and then for your child.
It also indicates that you view your authority as a trust given to you so that you can be a servant. Answering quickly, without fully understanding the intent of the words you hear, shows a lack of concern for others and, according to Proverbs, is shameful behavior.
See Ephesians 4:29 and Proverbs 18:13
Second: Use language that is pleasant and gracious.
Harsh tones and sarcastic answers do not build relationships.