To Be Happy, We Must Admit Women and Men Aren't "Equal"

menwomenequalmainNorman Vincent Peale, author of The Power of Positive Thinking, once wrote these words: "Change your thoughts, and you change your world."

His statement is highlighted at the beginning of my new book, How to Choose a Husband and Make Peace with Marriage. Its premise is that if women want to be successful in love, they should reject the cultural script they've been sold and adopt a whole new view of men and marriage.

As products of divorce, the modern generation has few role models for lasting love. That alone is a problem. But young women have an added burden: they've been raised in a society that eschews marriage. They've been taught instead to honor sex, singlehood and female empowerment.

Consider this statement by Rebecca Traister in Marie Claire: "The world as we've known it for a very long time -- one in which a woman's value was tied to her role as a wife -- is ending, right in front of us. It is now standard for a woman to spend years on her own, learning, working, earning, socializing, having sex, and yes, having babies in the manner she -- and she alone -- sees fit. We are living through the invention of independent female adulthood."

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