If you have gone to the same church for any length of time, chances are you’ve noticed something you don’t like. The music is too loud or not loud enough.
The pastor is talking about the building program again.
They really need to remodel the bathrooms.
And the list goes on and on. After all, no church can cater to the preferences of all its members. That would be an impossible and ridiculous task.
Sadly, it’s so easy to fixate on the negatives and forget all the positives. I realized this anew when I showed a first time visitor around my church. I proudly talked about the quality care her kids would receive from the wonderful teachers. I pointed out the beautiful sanctuary. I invited her to a Wednesday night group.
She was impressed and encouraged by her first Sunday at the church – and rightfully so!
I came home and told my husband James about my experience of seeing all the positives afresh about our church.
I realized the same rings true in our marriages.
What do you see when you look at your spouse? Do you ever have thoughts like these?