What Is Escapism? And Is It Destroying Your Marriage?

Escapism is defined by Google, as "the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy." I did this.

The reality of my marriage was one that I didn't like and didn't want to accept. By our third year of marriage, I was ready to escape any way that I could. I desired to numb the emotional pain that flared up because of unmet expectations of marriage and unmet expectations of how I thought God would and should bless our marriage.

Our relationship was falling apart and I didn't know how to fix it.

My heart was fragile. And instead of turning to God in my despair ... I isolated myself from Him.

This is when I experienced and gave my heart over to escapism. I wanted to escape the pain of my marriage and so I dived into a habit of seeking entertainment to fulfill me.

This is what I have learned about escapism...

The problem with escaping reality and seeking to be distracted is that while I was distracted with temporary stimulation, my reality worsened. As I spent time enveloped in fantasyland with books and movies, I avoided and neglected my marriage. The stress and source of pain in our marriage intensified. So when I came back to reality, I had all the more reason to quickly go back to fantasyland. A vicious cycle started that grew momentum faster than I could handle. With that momentum, also grew hatred for my situation. I didn't want to be a wife anymore.

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