Mommy anger is one of those secret sins that so many of us struggle with. Daily. You get it, right? We love our kids more than life itself, and yet, at the same time, our kids can bring out the tears, frustration (and pure anger) unlike anyone else!
We’re embarrassed by mommy anger because, hey, we’re supposed to have everything together. Who wants to be “that mom” who loses it in the grocery store?
We know that anger can be destructive, and we want to set a good example for our kids. How can we tell them not to yell, when we’re yelling at them?
And most of all? We hate who we become when we’re in “angry mom” mode. It’s horrible to feel out-of-control of our emotions, especially when we’re talking to a loved one.
We want to get help, and yet we’re also afraid to tell anyone else about this struggle because we’re afraid of the potential judgement and condemnation, especially from other moms (unfortunately, we moms can be pretty good at that).
Worst of all? The guilt from mommy anger can be incredibly overwhelming, leading to feelings of self-loathing and hopelessness.
Moms, can we come out of the shadows and admit that we all get stuck in "angry mom mode" from time to time?
Every single one of us deals with it. And for the sake of our kids, our marriages (and our own self-worth and mental health), it’s something that we need to start being real about, ladies.
I’ve been writing about anger a lot lately—not because I’m a expert psychologist, but because I dealt with habitual anger for a long time and God has brought me much healing in this area.
I see so many fellow Christian women who are suffering under this weight as well and I want to share what I’ve learned (and am still learning) as an everyday mom who parents extremely emotional, passionate kids.
The biggest thing I’ve had to learn is that if I want change then I need to be the one to make it.
I pray regularly that my kids will grow in certain areas, but I’m learning that their behavior cannot dictate my response. I can’t wait for them to be different for me to stop being angry.