Requiring exact, immediate, pleasant obedience is a huge blessing. This establishes the parent's God-given authority and helps children to see the value of honoring God's authority. However, it is possible allow children to become the center of the home and allow them to assume command. So it is important to ask, "Who's in charge?" Here is an example, that borders on the absurd, of what happens when a child is in charge:
Mom asks her almost six-year-old son, Justin, to open the front door to let some fresh air in through the screen door.
Justin replies, "Mommy, I'll just turn on the fan instead."
"No, I want you to open the door now."
"Mommy, please can we just turn on the fan? I like the noise the fan makes."
"Well, alright, go turn on the fan."
"Thanks, mommy! I'll do it in just a moment; I want to get a drink first."
"No, Justin, turn the fan on now!"
"But mommy, I am so thirsty that my throat hurts. Please can I have a drink?"
"Well, okay, you can get some water."
"But Mommy, I really want some juice; you said that juice is good for me. Would you get it for me?"
"Justin, I am really busy, would you just get it yourself!"