Why do you fight with your teenager? The answer is obvious, right? If your teenager was more respectful, if he would just do half of the things you asked, if she would actually listen, if you mattered half as much as the phone...? Of course there are some things that you need to work on, but the bottom line is your teenager specializes in making life difficult, right??? The problem with this scenario is that this parent is acting like her teenager is in control. Everything is dependent upon the teenager doing what is wanted or expected. The parent's action is controlled by what the teenager does instead of what God commands.
Yes, really. James says that fights and quarrels come from within, not from the other person. When a potential for conflict occurs, you can either rely on wisdom from below or wisdom from above (James 3:14-18).