Once again, someone in your life has offended you. Your frustration boils over. How many more times will you have to put up with being offended? So, you take matters into your own hands and let the offender know how you feel. You tell him just how annoyed and offended you are. You don't care if he is your brother or your coworker, enough is enough. Afterwards, you think you feel vindicated, you think you feel better, you think you have stood up for your rights. But something is not right. You still feel edgy and angry.
Doing things your way will always leave you unsettled. God has a different way to handle personal offenses! Here are four insights from the Proverbs that show God's wisdom:
1. Respond positively in love.
Return good for evil, show love instead of defending yourself. Look at Proverbs 17:9:
He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.
If you keep arguing and bringing the offense back up it will leave you isolated and upset. Relational damage will be done. Practice love instead of resentment. In short, stop talking about what upset you and find ways to appreciate the other person.
2. Don't give in to anger.
Anger is a divider, not a uniter. See Proverbs 10:12:
Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.
Your anger, your hatred will keep conflicts going. Repeating the matter brings separation in relationships.