You + Me = Family

With less than a month until their wedding, this wasn't the first time the issue of how and where to spend holidays had come up. "Have you decided how you'll spend the holidays once you're married?" I asked our engaged friends, Jack and Erin.

An amused smile crept across Jack's face. One that communicated he was far more eager than I was for an answer to that question.

With less than a month until their wedding, this wasn't the first time the issue of how and where to spend holidays had come up. I knew it was an ongoing discussion between them and that it stemmed from the different ways their families approached celebrations.

While Erin came from a large, extended family that observed everything together — from Thanksgiving to the Fourth of July —with multiple events, Jack was accustomed to smaller, more intimate gatherings of only immediate family. As their "I do’s" grew closer, they still weren't sure what the middle ground between her love of big celebrations and his love of small should be when they married. How would they divide their time? And was she even willing to miss out on some of her family's scheduled activities?

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